Why Men Hurt Women and Other Reflections on Love, Violence and Masculinity (eBook)

Kopano Ratele (Autor)

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2022 | Main
Wits University Press (Verlag)
978-1-77614-766-3 (ISBN)

Infos

Peppered with conversations, observations, and reflections on his personal experiences, work with men, and scholarship, Kopano Ratele meditates on love, violence and masculinity in this book at whose centre is the question of why men hurt others and themselves.

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This book seeks to imagine the possibility of a more loving masculinity in a society where structural violence, failures of government and economic inequality underpin much of the violent behaviour that men display. Enriched with personal reflections on his own experiences as a partner, father, psychologist and researcher in the field of men and masculinities, Why Men Hurt Women and Other Reflections on Love, Violence and Masculinity is Kopano Ratele's meditation on love and violence, and the way these forces shape the emotional lives of boys and men. At the core of these critical and deeply insightful texts is the question of why men hurt women they love. Ratele contends that many men in our society suffer from a painful, unrecognised, yet consequential love hunger that sets in during boyhood. This need for love may lie at the root of some of the male violence that damages the lives of women, children and men themselves.

Inhalt

Foreword by Raewyn Connell Part 1: Love 1 Why do women love men? 2 One ear turned inward and the other outward 3 Love needs 4 We can change how we love, but not without changing how we fight 5 Love hunger shows itself in many acts, and violence may be one of them 6 Why there is no love in the Plan 7 I love you, but I wish to hurt you 8 To love is to receive and to give 9 Talking matters 10 Listening carefully is an articulate act of love in action 11 Must love hurt? 12 The world is not yet ready for loving black boys 13 Producing and embodying the loving images we want of ourselves 14 If women stopped caring for men Part 2: Violence 15 ‘I am more scared of them’ 16 Men who speak with fists 17 Violence wears many faces 18 ‘Brothers, check yourselves!’ 19 ‘I have never raped anyone’ is not an achievement 20 Why is there violence where we expect to find love? 21 Really nice guys 22 ‘There was nothing suspicious about him’ 23 They don’t teach about sexual consent at university or at home 24 Jeanne and Emmanuel 25 Is the lesbian an alibi for an untenable model of masculinity? 26 Will we reduce rates of rape of women and children when we cannot face prison rape? Part 3: Masculinity 27 Trying to transform men is not a futile exercise, but it is slow and difficult work 28 A few key ideas to consider when thinking about men and changing masculinity 29 The politician told students you can’t ask for money from somebody who raped you 30 ‘Dad, look at me’ 31 ‘I have never hit a woman’ gets you no loving man award 32 Before death, before conception, in the many in-between moments, then repeat 33 Baldwin was a full man 34 The masculinity of a man who is a boy 35 Mr President, end patriarchy? 36 When work gets in the way of emotional connections 37 Love cannot escape power 38 What’s up with all this attention given to boys? 39 The fact of lovelessness in why men hurt others 40 Inheriting and passing down a loving masculinity Acknowledgements Index

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 1.9.2022
• Zusatzinfo: 2 b/w illustrations
• Verlagsort: Johannesburg
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie
• Themenwelt: Sozialwissenschaften ► Soziologie ► Gender Studies
• Schlagworte: books on boys and men • Evolutionary Psychology • Feminism • GbV • Gender-based violence • liberating masculinities • male power • male rape • male violence • manhood • Masculinity Studies • men's violence • parenting • Patriarchy • Rape • Self-Actualisation • Sexuality • Social Psychology • Toxic Masculinity • Ubuntu
• ISBN-10: 1-77614-766-9 / 1776147669
• ISBN-13: 978-1-77614-766-3 / 9781776147663