Become (eBook)

The Journey to Self actualization

Emmanuel Enebeli (Autor)

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2025 | 1. Auflage
129 Seiten
Publishdrive (Verlag)
978-0-00-110756-4 (ISBN)

Infos

BECOME: The Journey to Self-Actualization is a straight-forward instruction guide for anyone who wants to live up to their full potential. The book focuses on the idea that real success comes from knowing who you truly are on the inside (your identity) and then acting on that knowledge, rather than just chasing results or titles. It provides a clear, step-by-step plan for building a better life that leaves behind a true legacy.

The idea in this book is simple: growth is a process of small, consistent actions.

The ideas I share are faith-based and action-focused. You can turn your wishes into realities by making tiny tweaks to your life. This book is a journey to discovering your true self and finding true meaning.

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Who Are You?

This journey is not just about a plan or an action; it is about you, the real you. The person I believe you to be within, even when you don't yet realize it. You need to discover and define that person, because that is the moment you truly begin to live.

When I talk about the real you, I am not talking about the different versions you show to people at work or in church. I am definitely not talking about the person you are when you make mistakes or act out of character. No. I am talking about the you that God created when He formed you in your mother’s womb, full of potential and distinct purpose.

I need you to take a deep breath here, and let go of the noisy surroundings. If you listen closely, there is a still, small voice inside you. It doesn't shout; it reminds. It says you are more than your last success and more than your last stumble. It says that you are more than the opinions of your surroundings.

The world loves labels, and they are usually based on something they observed about you yesterday: "He is a quiet person," "She is smart but lazy," or worse, labels based on ethnicity or past failures. What rubbish! Describing someone by their tribe, their behavior, or even their experiences is a limitation imposed by small thinkers. If you hear these labels long enough, you begin to align with them, and they become a prison for your potential.

But here is the good news. You can put those labels down. You can choose the description God spoke before anyone else had words for you: Loved. Able. Called. Bright with purpose.

This is not pride; this is agreement. You begin to truly live when you agree with what God says about you. You cannot define yourself, and you cannot allow others to define you. The only person who can truly define you is the person who created you. He alone knows why He made you and what He made you for. Faith in God and alignment with His purpose is the true foundation of becoming.

When you accept what God says about you, you no longer believe the lies. You are no longer wasting energy trying to prove your worth to the room; instead, you are simply expressing it. You are no longer begging the room to see you but instead, you are bringing what you carry to the room and letting the fruit speak for itself.

 

Define Your Core

When you have an understanding of who you truly are, the person God created, not the label others gave you, it then becomes easy to define your values. Values are not fancy words you hang on a wall; they are a clear, non-negotiable expression of your identity. A value is you saying, "This is who I am, what I stand for, and what I can be held accountable to." They are lines that guide you, lines you will not cross for any reason. They are the guardrails of your life and the way your belief about yourself becomes a daily story.

True values begin from Identity. The beautiful truth about becoming is that you can only express what is already innate to you. Think of a phone. Its core purpose is to make calls because that is innate to its design. You can add apps for finance and social media, but its fundamental nature remains that of communication. You would never expect a speaker or a fan to make a call.

It is the same with you. God designed you and placed His core within you. You can add skills, polish, and new experiences, academic qualifications and all but your core remains. When you define your values from that core, life starts to make sense. Your yes has a backbone. Your no has peace in it.

So who are you and what is your core? What do you want people to remember when they encounter you? Is it confidence, integrity, kindness, patience, or humility? What kind of person are you when no one is clapping?

I had a lot of experience with this conflict. Though I grew up in church, constantly taught about my identity in Christ, I had an internal war. The conflict came from the fact that who I knew I was and what I was experiencing were two different things. This is a conflict everybody on the journey of self-discovery faces. But here is the thing: you cannot allow your experiences define you. Instead, you work to redefine your experiences to align with who you truly are.

I write down my values and affirmations in plain words and paste them on the wall in my room. They are not futuristic desires; they are written in the present tense: "Emmanuel Enebeli is a person of Integrity. Emmanuel Enebeli is kind and firm. Emmanuel Enebeli is a man of purpose". They are boldly written and I read them night and day. Slowly, they are moving from being mere words to becoming a reflex and I am expressing them more and more every day.

It is not easy to embody these values; they come at a cost. It might mean taking a stand when other people back out. It might mean speaking the truth even when it will cost you something in business. It might mean being kind even when it is unreciprocated. Every time you choose to stand by your values even when it is hard, you are affirming who you truly are. This is how character is built, and this is how you become.

 

Identity Before Strategy

Why do so many people fail in their journey of self-actualization? It is because they put the cart before the horse. They are always thinking it is about the outcome, so they work relentlessly on changing events, perceptions, and results. That is a futile work. Trust me, I know. I have lived in that endless, frustrating circle before.

You cannot force an oak tree to produce mangoes. You cannot make any lasting change until the Identity is settled.

The simple, liberating way to self-actualization is: Identity - Process - Outcome.

It all begins with who you are, and you need to settle who you are before you plan what to do. Strategy is absolutely useful and it helps you achieve your goals but it must always serve identity. When identity leads, plans stop feeling like a forced performance and start to feel like truth in motion.

Again, remember that a man can only find his true identity through the lens of his Creator. Go through scriptures and discover what God has said concerning you. Who does He say you are? What does He say you have? What does He say He created you for? These are the important questions. Find the answers and let them ink in until they begin to shape your choices without a fight.

When you know who you are, you stop chasing clout or living to please people. You know the things that agree with your core, and you walk them with a quiet courage. You stop wasting your energy trying to copy some else and you focus on the single talent entrusted to you.

This is the greatest gift you can give to yourself in life: an unwavering awareness of who you are.

When you discover it, write it in plain words and in the present tense. Keep reading it to yourself and let your heart hear it. Faith to take actions in the direction of your identity will come when you keep hearing and seeing it consistently.

Your strategy is important, but its power is limited to the identity it is attached to. A strategy to grow in business, academics, career or ministry, when attached to an identity of "I am a resourceful and disciplined steward," will succeed. When attached to an identity of "I am a struggling person trying to prove my worth," it will almost certainly fail.

Settle your identity first.

 

Tiny Habits, Lasting Change

Your identity and your core are amplified through the daily rhythms of your habits. There is a popular saying that claims you are what you repeatedly do. I do not fully subscribe to that idea. This is because sometimes we act out of character, or sometimes, we might simply not know what our true potential is. It is dangerous to allow your habits, which can be refined and changed, to rigidly define who you are. We must always have a sense of control of our lives. So, instead of concluding that we are what we repeatedly do, I would rather encourage that we should repeatedly do who we truly are!

It is not about making big, theatrical goals. It is about building systems that align with your personality and that inspire tiny, consistent transformation. It is about allowing your daily actions to become a true mirror that reflects your core. It is about the hundreds of tiny decisions you make every single day. It is easy to theorize that you are a person of integrity, but know this: whatever you believe you are will be tested, and it is in that moment of test that our understanding and our realities begin to align.

This journey of becoming is a marathon, not a sprint. It means there will be days you disappoint yourself. You believe you are a truthful person, but there comes a day when you lack the courage to tell the whole truth. Does that instantly make you a liar? No. It means you have not yet fully solidified your conviction of who you truly are. You simply go back to the secret place, read those identity words again, meditate on them, and build a more solid foundation. Then you wait for the next opportunity, because life is filled with them.

 

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Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 22.10.2025
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Beruf / Finanzen / Recht / Wirtschaft
• ISBN-10: 0-00-110756-9 / 0001107569
• ISBN-13: 978-0-00-110756-4 / 9780001107564