THE FIRST MEETING
It’s 10 a.m. Saturday morning outside the local ice-cream parlor in small-town, U.S.A. A young man named Oscar excitedly awaits his first meeting with his new mentor. Being raised by his mother, a single parent, Oscar looks forward to spending time with a positive, supportive, male role model.
Little does he know that the person he is about to meet will change his life forever.
Oscar is not a bad kid. He is what the local mentoring program considers an “at-risk” youth. Without the loving attention and encouraging influence he needs at this early time in his life, he may get sucked into a rough and tumble “street” education. This could possibly happen through the acceptance he would feel as a member of a gang, rather than from a role model who could mold his young character in a more positive manner.
The program where his mother has placed him is the talk of the town. Everyone’s buzzing about the quality of the people that the organization attracts and the extensive background checks they perform. Oscar’s mother researched the group before registering her son. Their website was loaded with raving testimonials, and she felt confident that her son would benefit from having a mentor. After having met the mentor, Roy, in person, she was impressed and knew that her son was in great hands.
Oscar stands there in his t-shirt with “Hot Shot” printed on the front, watching every passing car with anticipation that the next one will bring his new friend.
The young man’s eyes light up as he watches a brand new Mercedes Benz, glistening in the sunlight, roll up and stop right in front of him. The window rolls down with the touch of a switch, and a kindly looking older man says, in a friendly voice, “You must be Oscar, the young man I have an appointment with.”
The boy watches, wide-eyed, as the man gets out of the car.
“I’m Roy,” he volunteers. Oscar is too dumbfounded to acknowledge the introduction.
“Wow!” the boy says. “You must be rich. How did you get that way?”
“Just the fact that you asked me that question means chances are one day you’ll be rich, too,” the older man says with a grin.
“I want to be rich,” the boy answers smiling. “What do I do first?”
“The real question is, what do you do last?” Roy says.
“Last?” Oscar asks, amazed.
“Yes,” continues the mentor, in a warm and friendly tone. “Success is all about following through and taking action on your ideas. You see, most people work hard. They’re excited by wonderful ideas with great potential. However, very few actually follow through on their ideas with any sort of sustained effort.”
“I have an idea!” Oscar exclaims.
“That’s great! Are you willing to do what it takes to make it a reality?”
“I sure am!” Oscar replies. “I don’t know a lot about business, but I have an idea I’d look mighty good in that car of yours!”
The businessman holds back a smile and asks Oscar, “Do you know why most people don’t follow through on their ideas?”
The boy shrugs.
“FEAR, plain and simple. And it’s usually because we’re afraid of one of two things—fear of success or fear of failure. There is only one way I know of to conquer one’s fears and that is to meet them HEAD ON and work through the doubts.”
The businessman reaches into his pocket, pulls out a card, and hands it to the boy.
“You see, son, if you believe it, you CAN achieve it. Just keep taking steps toward your goals”
The boy looks down at the card and reads it.
“I get it!” the lad exclaims. “The first thing is to know what I’m going to do. But the main thing is to actually go out and do it.”
“Keep going,” Roy urges.
“My friend, Marcos, thought of this cool way to put baseball cards in bicycle spokes to make a neat sound. I gave him my allowance to do it to my bike. It’s great! He said he was going to do it for every kid in school, but he never did. He could have made, like, fifty bucks!”
“Exactly! Marcos had a great idea, and even a plan, but he lacked the most important ingredient: action. The only difference between success and failure is putting the fear of ‘attempt’ away and actually following through,” the older man patiently explains.
“Your friend was probably all excited at the thought of his dream,” Roy shares, “but after thinking about it for a while, he began to doubt himself. Could he get enough cards to do all the bikes? Maybe the other kids would poke fun at him and think the whole idea was stupid. What if the cards fell out? And so on…
“That’s the fear talk that tells us all the reasons why we’ll fail,” the businessman continues. “Why the project’s too hard, or why it won’t work. Rather than turning this dream-stealing voice off, most people give in to it, instead of doing what successful people do, and that’s…”
The businessman reaches into his pocket again and hands the young man another card.
“Oscar, it looks as though we have a situation here.”
“What do you mean?” Oscar asks, looking a little alarmed.
“Well, we could either stand outside this ice cream shop talking business, or we could go inside and continue over a sundae.”
Oscar’s eyes light up at the proposition. The two enter the Palace of Frozen Delights, and sit in a booth near the door.
“Let me tell you how this mentoring program works,” Roy begins. “If you promise to diligently pursue your dreams, I’ll meet you here once a month to answer any questions you have about how to reach your goals. Be sure to give your questions careful thought, and I’ll do my best to lead you in the right direction.”
“You’ll really do that?” Oscar asks, amazed.
Of course. If, in return, you promise to do something for me.”
“What could I do for YOU?” Oscar asked, surprised, implying there would be NOTHING he could give to the man in exchange.
“All I ask is that, when you get older, you share the lessons I’m going to teach you with someone else. Do we have a deal?”
An ear-to-ear smile breaks out on the boy’s face as his new mentor reaches across their desserts to shake hands on the agreement.
“Deal,” Oscar says shyly, looking away.
“Great! Now grasp my hand hard, look me in the eye, and say it like you mean it!” his advisor chides.
The boy makes eye contact with the man. With strength in his tone and grip, he says, “Deal!”
“Congratulations! You’ve just learned your first lesson,” the businessman says.
“I did?”
“You sure did. ALL good business relationships need to begin with a firm handshake and both parties happy about the terms of the contract. The agreement could be in writing or a verbal mutual understanding, like we have.”
Oscar reaches into his own pocket and offers his new friend a treasure he’d been saving for himself.
“What’s this?” his advisor asks.
“It’s my Barry Bonds rookie baseball card. It’s the BEST one I have. I’d NEVER put it in my spokes.”
This is for me?” Roy asks with a smile.
“Yes,” Oscar tells him with obvious pleasure. “You’ve given me TWO cards already, so I still owe you one.”
“Thank you, Oscar,” the businessman says, rising from the table. “You know young man, our arrangement may turn out even better than I’d anticipated. It seems to me you already have the personality traits that make a great leader.”
“Who, me?” the boy asks in amazement.
“Yes, you.” Reaching into his wallet to pay the check and leave a tip, the businessman pulls out another card and hands it to the boy, saying, “This is my best card, given to me when I was about your age by someone who taught me what it means to be successful. See you here next month.”
As the businessman walks out the door, the boy turns the card over and reads it aloud.
Months go by, then years. The boy and the businessman have made a connection that will last a lifetime. Every month, on the same day, in the same booth, at their special meeting place, the pair exchange stories of their successes and setbacks. As the boy grows, his skills are sharpened by the old man’s wisdom.
Then one night, during this adventure-filled span of time—as Oscar lies awake organizing his thoughts—an inspiration hits him like a light bulb flashing in his mind.
“I think I’m ready,” he whispers to himself. “Tomorrow I’m going to get my first job.”
The businessman is already sitting in their booth when Oscar pulls up the next...