I WANT TO LIVE, LOVE & BE LOVED (eBook)

a plea for all of us to find true joy in life and real human connection in peace and freedom

Franz Ruppert (Autor)

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2021 | 1. Auflage
228 Seiten
tredition (Verlag)
978-3-347-49006-2 (ISBN)

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Professor Dr. Franz Ruppert is a professor of psychology in Munich, where he runs his own institute for further education and training, alongside his psychotherapy practice. Through hands-on experience, he has developed his Identity-oriented Psychotrauma Theory (IoPT) over the past thirty years of professional work. He has presented his theory, and highly effective therapy method that accompanies it, in ten books so far, and these have been translated into twelve different languages. He works internationally and is one of the leading and best-known trauma therapists in the world.

Prof. Dr. Franz Ruppert ist 1957 in Bayern geboren, er lebt in München und ist seit 1992 Professor für Psychologie. Er hat ein eigenes Institut für Fort- und Weiterbildung und eine Praxis für Psychotherapie. In 30 Jahren beruflicher Tätigkeit konnte er die Identitätsorientierte Psychotraumatherapie (IoPT) schrittweise entwickeln. Dieses hocheffektive Therapieverfahren wurde bislang bereits in 10 Büchern dargestellt. Diese sind in 13 verschiedene Sprachen übersetzt. Herr Ruppert ist international tätig und einer der bekanntesten und führenden Traumatherapeuten weltweit.

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35. What are Diseases?

As humans, we can fall ill for various reasons or causes (accidents, poisoning, radiation, infections, etc.). Physical abnormalities such as inflammation, pain, ulcers and so on can be superficially called ‘diseases’.

However, on closer examination, they have different causes and conditions of origin in each individual person.

THE ORTHODOX MEDICAL MODEL OF DISEASE

How we deal with health and illness in any specific case depends on how we define illness and health as individuals or in society. There are different views and theories on this. For example, there is a simple model, often called the ‘orthodox medicine’ model, which

▪ Works without reference to the subjectivity of the respective person, his psyche or the reality of his life circumstances.

▪ Defines diseases as an apparently objective fact on the basis of specific symptoms.

▪ Diagnoses a person with physical or mental abnormalities according to predefined manuals (e.g. ICD).33

▪ Attempts to heal disease by eliminating symptoms by means of medical experts (see Figure 5).

In the orthodox medical model, the attempt is made to eliminate disease symptoms by cutting, cauterising, irradiating, chemically suppressing and so on. Health is not defined independently, but is essentially equated with the elimination of disease symptoms.

The relationship with a sick person, the personal contact and any communication as equals only takes place to a very modest extent in the orthodox medical system. There is an enormous difference in status and power between those who are often highly paid specialists and those who are simply called ‘patients’ or sufferers.

Figure 5: The Orthodox Medical Model of Illness

THE HOLISTIC MODEL OF HEALTH AND DISEASE

More holistic models of health and disease

▪ Consider symptoms of disease as the subjective expression of the living organism of a particular person in response to external influences and threats,

▪ They attempt to explain the information that these symptoms contain in relation to the life history and circumstances of this particular person,

▪ They largely refrain from diagnostic attributions, and

▪ They support the self-healing powers of this person through appropriate measures and services (see Figure 6).

Figure 6: The holistic model of health and illness

In this model, people who suffer from physical or psychological disorders and those who offer them health services can meet on an equal footing and enter into an in-depth dialogue. The people who are suffering ultimately remain the experts when it comes to their own health and therefore also bear the responsibility to remain in good health by leading their lives and shaping their living conditions accordingly.

OUR BODY SPEAKS TO US

My therapeutic work shows me that our body speaks to us through its symptoms. It sends us messages when something is wrong with our relationship to ourselves and our fellow human beings. If a person is psychologically split and exists in multiple parts due to his or her trauma biography, this also expresses itself physically. If, for example, we no longer talk about our own life and feelings and our needs for love and how they are chronically not being met, then our body tries to express this repression in many different ways.

From my point of view, physical abnormalities and complaints generally serve as information that something is not right in a person and that their body is trying to cope with a life situation that is making them ill. I know from traumatherapeutic experience that many ‘illnesses’ are a child’s attempt to come to terms with a rejecting, emotionally absent, cold and distant mother. It is on this basis, for example, that the thyroid gland shuts down its activity so that the child does not ‘annoy’ the mother too much with its liveliness. Or a child has a constant stomach ache, for example, because it cannot express its grief in any other way. In the worst case, the inner struggle of entangled perpetrator-victim dynamics with one’s own mother, can violently express itself externally in cancer.34

If we only deal with the symptoms and want to get rid of them, this is just a distraction strategy from our own trauma and it will not succeed.

A CASE STUDY

During a recent online group therapy seminar, F told me that she had Covid-19 or, at least, that she had been diagnosed with it. She had pain and breathing difficulties in her left lung. She said that she had had many injuries to her left side throughout her life. F formulated the following Intention for her self-encounter:

I Heart Water

What transpired was as follows: The person she had asked to go into resonance with her I felt an extreme inner coldness and tried to keep herself warm by hugging herself very tightly with her arms. This put enormous pressure on the left-hand side of her ribcage. F confirmed that she had known this pressure on the left side of her chest all her life.

The person resonating with Heart felt a strong connection with F but had a great aversion to the other two parts, the I and Water.

The person resonating with Water felt as if she were still prenatal, internally pumped full of fluid and desperately searching for contact and help.

We then added in someone to resonate with F’s mother. F knows that her father wanted to divorce his wife again just one week after they’d got married. However, her mother became pregnant one month after the wedding. So the two stayed together all their lives and had a total of five children. Her mother had been very thin and had not been able to cope with her pregnancies.

The mother always had an extreme fear of how the children would physically fit out of her womb. F described her mother as extremely dominant and violent towards her. She had not given her any space for the development of her own self, but had constantly patronised her and kept her small.

Water and I reacted to the bringing in of the mother to the self-encounter by desperately trying to get her attention, while Heart wished it had a gun so it could riddle the mother with bullet holes.

The person resonating with the mother was unattainable for F despite all the wooing that I and Water lavished on her. She showed herself to be completely anxious and stressed and had no psychological capacity to be there for her child. She felt threatened by Heart and tried to put it in its place.

When, in the course of this self-encounter, F came more into a felt and embodied contact with her parts I and Water and was no longer afraid of them, Heart protested and said that she was full of jealousy and that either she alone could be connected to F or she now had to leave. She felt that it was not possible for her to stay if F was connected with these other parts.

This showed the deep inner split in which F had been living up to now. There are these needy child parts in her (Water and I) that long for contact and the warmth and love of her mother. On the other hand, her Heart has hardened, and lives out of its victim attitudes in fear and aggression towards the mother and in these perpetrator attitudes would prefer to kill the heartless-cold mother.

I encouraged F to acknowledge her suppressed need to be loved by her mother and to express it clearly. After some resistance, she succeeded in doing so and in this way got in touch with her primal pain, which was linked to the suppression of her need for love. Twice in the course of this self-encounter, waves of the deepest pain rose up in her. When this happened, this led to a great connection between her and I and Water. Heart was also able to little by little give up her resistance to this connection. Towards the end of the process, the iron ring that Heart felt had been constraining her loosened and she began to weep bitterly and noticed that she was becoming warmer and softer inside. This enabled F to gradually come out of her psychological split more and more and she was able to achieve an inner unity with all her three parts again. In the end she felt happy, content and deeply relaxed.

AFTEREFFECTS

Three months after this self-encounter F told me that she no longer had any problems with her heart and also she felt otherwise healthy except for the inflammations in her mouth and throat. She wrote to me, saying the following: ‘With reference to my work on my coronary condition of water in my heart, which I was able to do with you in January: I went to the cardiologist today and the situation in my heart has improved considerably. They said I don’t need another check-up for another year and a half’.

In April 2021, we did another therapeutic session, this time as an individual online session. In her Intention I Body Mucous membranes she came in contact with the sexual abuse she had suffered from her father from the age of two and a half. She was lying in her parents’ marital bed, her mother turned away and fell asleep

while her father...

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 25.11.2021
• Illustrationen: Dirk Wächter
• Mitarbeit: Cover Design: Susanne Bhangu; Sonstige Mitarbeit: Susanne Bhangu, Ute Boldt
• Übersetzer: Simon Lys
• Verlagsort: Ahrensburg
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Familie / Erziehung
• Themenwelt: Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie ► Allgemeines / Lexika
• Schlagworte: and • are • But • CAN • Corona • Find • FOR • from • Had • have • ITS • Like • May • Must • Never • One • She • that • the • they • this • through • Time • what • when • with • would • WWW • You • Your
• ISBN-10: 3-347-49006-1 / 3347490061
• ISBN-13: 978-3-347-49006-2 / 9783347490062