Living An Orgasmic Life (eBook)
272 Seiten
Jim Dandy Publishing (Verlag)
978-1-63353-827-6 (ISBN)
Heal Your Relationship with Sex
“Through her own sexual healing journey and those of others, author and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet takes us back to a place where we can all develop the courage to reclaim our sexual desires. —Louann Brizendine, MD, New York Times Best Selling Author of The Female Brain and The Male Brain
# 1 Best Seller in Sexual Health and LGBT Studies
Overcome your discomfort: Living An Orgasmic Life is for those who find sex challenging and are uncomfortable with their sex life. Women who are alienated from their erotic side due to sexual abuse or trauma will find healing balm in these pages. Women who can’t surrender into pleasure, can’t sustain intimacy, or want to reclaim and feel empowered in their sexuality will greatly benefit from this book.
Awaken your sexuality. Challenges with sexuality are common and infrequently discussed. Xanet Pailet explores the reasons that cause women to disconnect from their sexuality including shame, body image issues, sexual abuse and trauma, physical wounding, and fears of intimacy. She provides practical advice and tools to help women awaken to their sexuality in a healthy way and reclaim their libido.
Add sex back into your marriage. According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 20% of married couples are only having sex once a month—a sexless marriage. And, the number of reported sexless marriages has quadrupled in the last 20 years. Living An Orgasmic Life is filled with lessons and practical exercises to take your sex life from non-existent or mediocre to fulfilling. Learn:
- Why it’s so hard to talk about sex in a world where everything is about sex
- How sexual trauma can occur and how to heal it
- How to reignite your libido
If you benefited from reading Sex Rx, Urban Tantra, Come as You Are, or Womancode, Living An Orgasmic Life is a must read.
Introduction
PART ONE: Healing yourself from Shame, Sexual Abuse and Physical Trauma
Chapter 1: A Night of Goddess Worship Can Change Your Life
Chapter 2: Living a Life of Lies
Appearances Can Be Deceiving
The Widening Divide
What Happened to Us?
We were doomed from the start
Finding a Home in Your Body
Chapter 3: Women are Programmed to Say “No” to Sex
An Oversexed, Sex-Starved Culture
Sexless Marriage vs Upsetting the Apple Cart
Where Did my Libido Go?
“Keep your legs shut!”
Good Girl Madonna, Bad Girl Whore
The more we have sex, the more we want sex (Good sex begets more good sex)
Chapter 4: Shame: The Nastiest Five-Letter Word in the Universe
The Shame/Pleasure Paradox
Ancient Cultures Were Sex-Positive
Shame and Your Sexual Blueprint
Jessica’s Story: Body Shame
Jeff’s Story: Delayed Ejaculation Shame
Sexual Blueprint Exercise
Tim’s Story: Shame from Inappropriate Attraction
Anya’s Story: Sexually Repressed Shame
Bob’s Story: Shame Around Experiencing Desire
Masturbation and Shame
Delia’s Story: Masturbation Shame and Disassociation from Pleasure
Keith’s Story: Masturbation Shame and Early Ejaculation
Body Shame: A Generalized, Cultural Disorder
Exercise: Body Talk
Too Big, Too Small: Sex Organ Shame
Jim’s Story: Cock Size Shame
Pussy Shame
Annie’s Story: My Vagina is Normal!
Sexual Fetishism
Ralph’s Story: Cross Dressing and Submissive Shame
Chapter 5: Sexual Abuse and Trauma
Overt and Covert Abuse
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Impact on Sexuality
Anne’s Story: Unresolved Trauma causing Vaginismus
Repression of Memories
Trauma and Self-Protection Mechanisms
Darla’s Story: Trauma and Disassociation
Tonya’s Story: Trauma and Over-Stimulation
Ellen’s Story: Slaying the Tiger
Downstream Effects of Abuse
Lilly’s Story: Trauma and Fear of Intimacy
Cecilia’s Story: Trauma and Self-Abusive Behavior
Men and Sexual Trauma
David’s Story: Recreating Abusive Relationships
Working with Sexual Trauma
Jessie and Mark’s Story: Resolving Trauma and Reclaiming their Sex Life
Chapter 6: The Body Remembers: Trauma & Physical Imprinting
Trauma and Physical Imprinting
Body Memory
Physical Trauma’s Impact on Sexuality
Heal the Body, Heal the Mind
Releasing Trapped Pain from Trauma
Raina’s Story: Trauma from a Routine Gynecological Exam
Holistic Pelvic Care
Carrie’s Story: Healing Trauma from Childbirth
Jane’s Story: Weaning Herself Off a Vibrator by Rewiring Physical Patterns
Exercise: Awakening New Pleasure Pathways
Ingrid and Mark’s Story: Activating New Pleasure Pathways
Chapter 7: Blocks to Intimacy
Attachment Theory (“It really is all your mother’s fault”)
Secure Attachment
Anxious Attachment
Avoidant Attachment
Anxious Avoidant Attachment
Other Influences on Attachment
The Influence of Attachment Style in Adult Relationships
Victor’s Story: Perpetually in the Friend Zone
Emotional Detachment (Why Crying is So Good for You)
Intimacy Requires an Emotional Connection
Lisa’s Story: Learning How to Let Others Care for Her
Tristan’s Story: Dealing with a Broken Heart
Caryn’s Story: Confusing Sex with Love
PART TWO: Awakening Your Pleasure
Chapter 8: Beginning the Journey of Sexual Healing & Awakening
Four Guiding Principles to Transform your Sex Life
Self-Awareness and Courage
Exercise: Visioning Letter
Understanding and Banishing Sexual Shame
Accepting and Loving Your Body
Exercise: Create Your Vagina Timeline
Bethany’s Story: My Period Betrayed Me
Julia’s Story: Where Did My Beautiful Body Go?
Laina’s Story: Menopause Madness
Embodiment—The Place to Begin
Chapter 9: Coming home to My Body and Welcoming Pleasure
Welcoming Pleasure
The Road to Becoming a Sex and Intimacy Coach
Sexological Bodywork
SkyDancing Tantra Teacher Training
Somatica: The Glue that Holds it All Together
Chapter 10: So What is Tantra Anyway?
Origins of Tantra
The Emergence of SkyDancing Tantra
Exercise: The Yoni Talk
Chakras and Sexual Awakening
Exercise: Subtle Energy
Principles of Tantra
Exercise: Chakra Sounding
Chapter 11: How to Reignite Your Shrinking Libido
Desire and Your Hormones
Desire and Your Internal Landscape
Exercise: Sacred Space Ritual: A Partner Practice
Vanilla Sex Can Kill Your Libido
Karen’s Story: Boring Sex
Desire and Your External Landscape
Exercise: Peak Sexual Experience Survey
Knowing What You Want
Who Initiates Sex?
Understand Your Sexual Style
When Sexual Styles Conflict
Anne and Jeremy’s Story: Conflicting Sexual Styles
Switching it Up: Sexual Styles Aren’t Static
Core Erotic Theme
Exercise: Identifying Your Hottest Sexual Movie
Chapter 12: Great Sex is about Polarity
Why Opposites Attract
Fantasy and Cultural Taboos
Collette and Liam’s Story: Creating Sexual Polarity through Role-Play
Sexual Polarity is Upside Down in our Society
Andrea’s Story: Finding Her Feminine Self
Exercise: Fun Ways to Find Your Sexy
Masculinity and Male Sexuality
Paul’s Story: Permission to Feel Desire
Genevieve and Carl’s Story: Learning to Surrender into Dominance
Chapter 13: Realizing Your Pleasure Potential
Slow Things Down
Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Body
The Ins and Outs of Orgasm
The Power of Touch
The Three Minute Game
Exercise: Touching for Your Own Pleasure
You are Responsible for Your Arousal
Learning What You Want
Exercise: Self-Loving Practice
Orgasms Don’t Just Happen in Your Genitals
Anal Pleasure
Chapter 14: Living an Orgasmic Life
Sex is a Basic Human Need like Food and Shelter
A Sexual Woman is a Creative Woman
Sex Transmutation
Quantum Physics and Sex
Exercise: Feed Your Creativity
The Process of Transformation
Nora’s Story: Making a Career Change
Intuition: The Greatest Gift of All
Exercise: Cultivating Your Intuition by Learning Your “Yes” and “No”
Lara’s Story: Making a Life Changing Decision to be a Single Mom
Brant’s Story: When Sex and Creativity Flows, So Does the Money
Darleen’s Story: Reinventing Oneself in Her 60s
Your Story Next
| Erscheint lt. Verlag | 15.8.2018 |
|---|---|
| Vorwort | Emily Morse |
| Zusatzinfo | black and white illustrations throughout the book |
| Sprache | englisch |
| Themenwelt | Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Geschichte / Politik ► Politik / Gesellschaft |
| Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie | |
| Schlagworte | Awaken • awaken pleasure • best sex • book of sex • Come as you are • Esther Perel • Female sexuality • for your pleasure • heal • holistic sex • hormone health • Kama Sutra • kama sutra book • lgbt sex education • living mala • Love life • marriage • mating in captivity • open her • pailet lesbian sacred sexuality • Relationship • sacred manga • sacred pleasure • sacred the manga • Sex • sex books • sex health and long life • sex in books • sex life • sexual healing • Sexual Health • she comes first • tantric massage • the living mals • Urban Tantra • WomanCode • xanet pailet • xxanet |
| ISBN-10 | 1-63353-827-3 / 1633538273 |
| ISBN-13 | 978-1-63353-827-6 / 9781633538276 |
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