Controlling Stress in Your Life (eBook)

Learn How to Establish a Safe and Healthy Lifestyle

Kaydon A. Stanzione (Autor)

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2015 | 1. Auflage
86 Seiten
Bookbaby (Verlag)
978-1-63192-689-1 (ISBN)

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Do you find yourself, family or friends stressed out or in potentially uncomfortable or dangerous environments? This book serves as an informational companion guide to help you identify and manage stressful and harmful situations, improve your ability to communicate with people, and give you guidance for identifying and dealing with potentially violent people. You can apply this information to help yourself or to assess potentially unsafe lifestyles of other individuals in your family, social group, school, work, or otherwise. For current information on available online tools and other self-help aids, please visit www.AutumnAlert.com. This book is not intended to be a replacement for professional guidance and support. If you are feeling uncomfortable or threatened in any way, seek professional help. If a person's stress is not properly dealt with, it may lead to rage and violence. We can help ourselves by controlling our emotions and by helping others in our family and social groups to identify stress factors and avoid people and situations that could escalate to rage or violence. To make good choices in your life, it is important to understand your environment and personal associations. This includes understanding yourself and recognizing and avoiding patterns in other people which may be harmful to you. Violence takes on many forms which can be categorized into three levels, with each level presenting increasingly more danger to you and your loved ones. If you think that you are in a potentially stressful or violent situation, then you are! If someone you love and care about is involved in a similar situation, then you are too! You do not have to be directly threatened, harassed, or hurt, but if you are surrounded by any of these events, then in all actuality, you too are a victim. Not only do victims need help, but people who care about victims need help, too. Ultimately, it is up to you to decide what works best for you and your situation. While it may not be easy to obtain a happy, healthy, and safe life, it is possible and it is worth the effort! You're certainly worth the effort! And you're friends and families are worth it, too! If you agree, then this book is for you.

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Chapter 1 Profiles of Stress, Rage & Violence in the World around You

Profiles

There is no one and no place immune to the devastating effects of violence. Recent statistics indicate that violence is rapidly escalating in our homes, workplaces, public facilities, and schools. By examining a sample of recent violent events, we can better understand who, what, why, when, where, and how of stress can manifest itself into rage and violence.

Many individuals are confronted with stress every day of their lives. The sources of stress are numerous. Stress may stem from problems with work, relationships, finances, children, household responsibilities, legal disputes, accidents, health, moving, school, friends, discrimination, chemical dependencies, and many other reasons. Multiple problems can compound stress levels. People may find it difficult to “get away” and peacefully sort out their problems until they can continue daily with a healthy, happy attitude.

Studying those aspects of life which are not conducive to establishing a healthy, congenial, and safe environment can provide clues to understanding, identifying, and resolving potential stress factors which can lead to rage and violence. As an individual, only you hold the key to controlling your temper. Whether you are at work, home, school, a public place or other environment, you must prepare yourself to deal with your own emotions and the emotions of people around you.

An examination of sample acts of stress and violence helps us to better understand that tragedy can be both predetermined and randomly caused by the least suspecting person. The sample cases presented will illustrate acts of violence that should have been avoided. Lessons learned from analyzing the chain of events associated with these and other examples have provided valuable information regarding warning signs, preventative measures, conflict resolution, trauma response, and other pertinent issues which formulate the basis of this program.

Several examples of violence will be presented which illustrate how stress-induced situations lead to violent acts. These examples typify some of the troubles which plague individuals, their families and friends today. Please note that not all acts of domestic violence arise from family or relationship problems. Examining random acts of violence can also help us to understand the warning signs evident in people, thus aiding in avoiding a conflict. These examples are presented, not to frighten you, but to raise your awareness of the potential for violence in real-life scenarios.

Example 1-Distraught Mother

Betty, a young woman with an existing career and pre-school child, recently separated from her husband. She is suddenly thrust into supporting the household and her pre-school child. Betty finds herself alienated from her and her husband’s mutual friends. She has never shown violent tendencies and is generally known for her passive behavior. The pressures of a hectic work and child care schedule coupled with financial problems appear greater every day. One morning her child is “dragging her feet” getting ready for school. In fear of losing her job because of being late, the mother slaps the child across the face with such force that the child has a hand-shaped welt. While the mother is extremely sorry and upset, she hits the child again two weeks later.

Example 2- Over-Protective Husband

During the 20 years that Fred lived in the neighborhood, he and his wife had frequented the local public library on several occasions. One day, he had a complaint about his wife being denied the respect she deserved by library workers. In a rage of vengeance, he entered the library and starting shooting people, instantly killing two librarians. Pursued by nearby police officers, he was eventually confronted with a shoot-out before he was killed by police.

Example 3- Estranged Father

John consistently denied financial support throughout his estranged child’s life. Even though the child was emancipated, John was sentenced by the courts to pay $6,780 in back child support payments. The State Child Support Unit made arrangements to withhold $51 from each one of his paychecks until full restitution was made. Upon the first withholding, Miller was enraged and entered the State Child Support Unit where he shot and killed four of the state employees. The ex-wife wasn’t shocked when she heard the news and was thankful that John didn’t harm her or the child.

Example 4- Battered Son

Donald grew up in a strict ethnic household where the father frequently administered spankings. While he found love and tenderness from his mother, she dare not cross her husband. By the time Donald was a teenager, the spankings turned into physical punishment and he grew distant from his father. He became jealous of how his father was “king of the family” and he also started to resent his mother for not intervening. As Donald entered high school he had a long standing propensity for violence, a loner's mentality and an ability to stubbornly resist reason and logic once he decided on a position. Donald quit high school to move away from his family. Feeling that she failed her son as a mother, Donald’s mom attempted suicide.

Example 5- Jealous Daughter

Jill was the youngest of three sisters living with her loving family in a nice home. She was a high school freshman when her two oldest sisters left for college. It was during this time that long standing and unnoticed problems between her parents started to appear. Jill thought her mom and dad had a wonderful marriage until her dad moved out. Jill hated her father for leaving and also resented her mother for driving him away. She became nasty toward her parents and teachers. Jill started smoking, hanging out with older boys, drinking, and was suspected of taking drugs. The parents were too embarrassed to speak with a counselor from school or a local support group for parents of teenage children. Instead, the parents sought advice from a marriage counselor located out of town. However, they had waited too long to help the situation with their daughter. Jill was only 14 years old when she became pregnant.

Example 6- Discriminating Worker

When Sheila was promoted to manager at her job it came as no surprise to many workers. She was always professional in appearance, mannerisms, and work ethics. She also happened to be the most capable person for leading a group of people. However, one middle-aged man found it appalling that he had to work for a women. After numerous difficulties working for Sheila, he quit his job. After some time, he returned to his former employer’s facility armed with semi-automatic pistol and started firing randomly at former co-workers, killing two and injuring two others before shooting himself in the head.

Example 7- Distraught Daughter

A 57 year old women named Xenia had been sitting in the reception room of the Henry Ford Hospital eye clinic on July 28, 1993. After approximately 30 minutes, she went out to her car and returned to the clinic with a gun. She randomly started shooting medical technicians. After her capture, she stated “I shot those two doctors 'cause they killed my mom. Doctors butchered my mother.” Xenia believed that her mother had received inadequate and fatal care at another hospital in Detroit. At the time of her mother's death, no complaints had been filed with the hospital. She did not know the two technicians that she shot.

Every day there are more and more cases added to the list of harassment, threats, and violence which are happening not only in our country, but around the world. By examining these cases we can develop a better idea on how to identify, manage, and prevent stress from escalating to rage and violence.

Defining the Problem

Within the United States, domestic violence has resulted in millions of attacks during the past two years which can occur either at work or home. Roughly five percent of these attacks were extremely violent, resulting in death and permanent disabilities. Examination of domestic violence within our homes indicates that roughly ten percent of families experience domestic violence. Since many families do not report domestic violence, it is difficult to assess the contributions arising from spousal abuse, child abuse, and troublesome friendships.

What exactly is domestic violence? Some people report that while their spouses never hit them, they are constantly screaming and demanding. Some spouses or lovers threaten to have outside affairs, divorce or leave the relationship, even take the kids and run away. Just because you have never been physically hurt by another person does not mean that you are not a victim of domestic violence.

People who threaten or hurt you are, in general, emotionally enraged and have the potential for violence. A threat is a form of abuse. Abuse is a form of domestic violence. Call it what you want, but if you are a victim, YOU and YOUR attacker need help!

Many emotionally enraged and abusive people do not consider themselves as an attacker or one who commits domestic violence. Some of these people are so abusive that they can lead other people to commit violence. The definition of abuse...

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 2.3.2015
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Sachbuch/Ratgeber ► Gesundheit / Leben / Psychologie ► Lebenshilfe / Lebensführung
• Themenwelt: Geisteswissenschaften ► Psychologie
• ISBN-10: 1-63192-689-6 / 1631926896
• ISBN-13: 978-1-63192-689-1 / 9781631926891