From Pooping Panic to Pooping Proud (eBook)

How to Treat Childhood Constipation with Compassion and Clarity

J.B. Bey (Autor)

eBook Download: EPUB

2025 | 1. Auflage
73 Seiten
Bookbaby (Verlag)
979-8-3178-1770-1 (ISBN)

Infos

This isn't just another parenting book filled with warm platitudes or old wives' tales. It's a clear-eyed, practical guide for parents facing a problem that's more common than folks care to admit: chronic constipation and soiling in children. The first thing to get straight is this-stop blaming the kid. Most people, including doctors who ought to know better, chalk these issues up to behavioral defiance or laziness. That's not just wrong-it's counterproductive. What's really going on, more often than not, is a physiological jam. A kid with chronic withholding stretches the rectum to the point it loses sensitivity-a condition that's been accurately (and unflatteringly) termed a 'megarectum.' The nerves go quiet, and the kid doesn't feel the urge to go until it's too late. That's how you end up with soiling accidents and a child locked in a cycle of pain, shame, and more withholding. Getting to the Root This is not something you fix with prune juice and wishful thinking. The solution requires a long-term medical approach, not a weekend of 'more veggies.' Think sustained intervention-often a regimen of osmotic laxatives (Miralax, for instance), sometimes bolstered by stimulant laxatives when needed. The goal is simple but not easy: daily, soft, complete bowel movements, day in and day out, to let the stretched colon heal and remember its job. What Matters More Than Discipline And while you're at it, toss out any ideas about discipline or embarrassment being useful here. They're not. In fact, they'll make things worse. The book lays out practical language for talking to your child-and to caregivers and well-meaning but misinformed relatives-without shame or scolding. This is about education, repetition, and rebuilding the child's sense of bodily awareness. Call it the brain-gut connection, call it common sense-but it works.

Jafar Bey is a parent whose child was diagnosed with severe functional constipation and megarectum-two words that quickly became the center of an unexpected, all-consuming journey. In the quiet spaces between appointments, tests, and uncertainty, Jafar began searching for something more than clinical answers: clarity, compassion, and a sense of steadiness in the storm. Drawing on prior experience as a Pharmacy Technician, Jafar navigated the complex language of medicine with persistence and curiosity-asking questions, tracking down research, and bridging the gap between sterile instruction and human need. Jafar is also the author of Tykenjo, a martial arts book rooted in discipline, resilience, and the belief that knowledge should be shared, not hoarded. This book is the result of years of research, advocacy, and personal experience. It was written for the parent lying awake at night, the one asking questions that seem to have no easy answers. May it offer you not only information, but also the comfort of knowing you are not alone.

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"e;It's Not a Potty Problem, It's a Pooping Problem"e; is a rare thing in the world of parenting advice: a book that's not sentimental, not superficial, and not wrong. It takes a problem most people misunderstand-chronic constipation and soiling in children-and replaces mythology with physiology, confusion with clarity, and guilt with something far more useful: understanding. Most of what people think they know about potty training is baloney. Our culture treats a child's toilet habits like a milestone to brag about at dinner parties, rather than what it often is: a complex biological process that can go off the rails. This book says what others won't being "e;potty trained"e; doesn't mean a child's digestive system is working properly. In fact, the training may come too early, or too hard, and that's where the trouble starts. The author explains, quite sensibly, that many kids aren't "e;bad"e; or "e;lazy"e; or "e;acting out."e; They're stuck in a physiological trap. One painful poop, one bad bathroom experience and suddenly the child starts withholding. The rectum stretches, the nerves stop firing properly, and you end up with a "e;mega-rectum"e; yes, that's the real term, and no, you shouldn't laugh too hard, because it's a real medical condition. The urge to go disappears, the stool gets harder, the pain increases, and the cycle feeds itself. And none of this is the child's fault. Forget Morals Follow the MedicineThe book's main idea is simple: this isn't a behavior issue; it's a medical one. You wouldn't try to shame a child out of asthma, and you shouldn't try to discipline them out of constipation. The treatment, like most good solutions in life, is straightforward but requires patience: stool softeners (osmotic laxatives like Miralax), sometimes in tandem with stimulant laxatives to actually get things moving and clean the pipes. The goal is to create soft, daily bowel movements every day, no guesswork for long enough that the rectum can shrink back to its normal size and the body can start sending reliable signals again. And no, these tools aren't dangerous when used correctly. They're not habit-forming and they don't destroy your gut. That's just another myth that dies hard, like "e;sugar makes kids hyper."e; We've seen what happens when parents avoid proper treatment out of fear it doesn't go well. Fixing the Wiring: The Brain-Gut DisconnectWhat's really fascinating here and what most pediatricians don't even bother to explain is the neurological piece. When a child lives with chronic constipation, their interoception (their ability to feel internal signals) gets thrown out of whack. The body literally stops telling the brain when it's time to go. It's not willful defiance. It's faulty wiring. That's why the solution has to involve more than medicine it's about retraining the system. The book lays out how to do that with daily, consistent routines and a whole lot of compassionate communication. None of this "e;Do you have to go?"e; nonsense that just invites denial. Instead, it's "e;Time to sit on the potty,"e; framed as a calm, body-aware practice not a battle of wills. How to Talk to Everyone Who's Probably WrongThe author also understand a crucial point: it's not just kids who need re-education. Adults are often worse. So the book gives you scripts yes, actual words for dealing with:Children: How to make this problem sound like a puzzle they're solving, not a moral failure. Grandparents: How to diplomatically debunk the prune-and-shame routine without starting World War III. Teachers & Caregivers: How to hand them a one-page sheet so your kid doesn't end up in the nurse's office over some avoidable mess.

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 5.9.2025
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Medizin / Pharmazie ► Medizinische Fachgebiete ► Pädiatrie
• ISBN-13: 979-8-3178-1770-1 / 9798317817701