How To Badass Yourself (eBook)

A Journey From Being Paralyzed To A Hole-In-One Using Unwavering Positivity

Melan Baron (Autor)

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2025 | 1. Auflage
200 Seiten
10-10-10 Publishing (Verlag)
978-1-77277-687-4 (ISBN)

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A new book by first-time author Melan Baron chronicles a transformative journey of self-discovery that shifts your mindset from 'Why Me?' to 'Why Not Me?' How To Badass Yourself: A Journey From Being Paralyzed To A Hole-In-One Using Unwavering Positivity is the story about the author's recovery from being paralyzed after an elective surgery in 2012, and her subsequent battle with peripheral neuropathy. The author embarks on the road less traveled, overcoming life's twists and turns, which were once suffocating with darkness, loneliness, and heavy pressure. Initially, she wondered, 'Why Me?' However, through her journey, she has become resilient and has been guided to the right hands, the right person, and the right opportunity at the right time in her life. This self-discovery has become a mastery that highlights her innate gift, making her life feel like it has just begun. As she evolves into the person she is meant to be, she would never want to be anyone different, and her wonder has turned into 'Why Not Me?'

Melan Baron's unwavering positivity, rooted in her grandparents' unconditional love and her uncle's self-discipline, has been the driving force behind her success in overcoming adversity. Her go-getter mindset, fueled by her love for learning English and her ability to transform limiting beliefs into positivity, has been instrumental in her achievements. By adopting a growth mindset and developing resilience, Melan has succeeded in both her personal and professional life despite the challenges she faced. Graduating from Lembaga Pendidikan Kejuruan (LPK) Tarakanita in Jakarta, Indonesia in 1994, Melan secured positions with global companies from 1995 to 2004, which allowed her to travel abroad for work and training. During this period, she worked for prominent companies such as BASF Indonesia, BASF Southeast Asia, Siemens Telecommunication Project Office, and the United Nations Development Program. Her experiences were further enriched by her involvement in the Ultimate Frisbee community, volunteering and her passion for cooking. In 2004, Melan seized the opportunity to move to America, where she continued her studies from 2009 to 2017 in Boston, Massachusetts. She earned an undergraduate degree in Business Science (BSc.) in Finance and Accounting from Northeastern University in 2011, and an MBA in International Business from Suffolk University in 2017. These qualifications paved the way for her career in the financial industry, where she worked for prominent companies like Fidelity Investments in Boston and Wolter Kluwer in Waltham. Melan's wisdom extends beyond her personal achievements; her simple yet profound her approach to life - letting go of overthinking, trusting in one's abilities, and finding joy in the process. Her uncle aptly described her as a 'badass' for taking the road less traveled aptly captures her spirit of determination and courage. Melan's journey serves as a testament to the power of a growth mindset, resilience, and positivity in overcoming obstacles and achieving success In 2012, Melan's resilience was put to the test when she experienced short-term paralysis. True to her character, she turned this challenge into an opportunity for growth. She took up golf as a means to combat peripheral neuropathy, her remarkable golf skills and dedication to the sport led to remarkable achievements, including a Team Titleist photoshoot in 2018 and a hole-in-one in 2021. Melan's approach to life and golf exemplifies the power of perseverance and a positive attitude. Her ability to overcome physical challenges and excel in sport demonstrates that with the right mindset, one can turn adversity into opportunity. Her success story serves as an inspiration, showing that by trusting in oneself and finding joy in the process, one can achieve great things, both on and off the golf course. Melan's wisdom for golfers is simple yet profound: 'The joy in golf is when you let go of your thinking on the golf course, let the clubs do the work, you can lower your score.' ?

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A new book by first-time author Melan Baron chronicles a transformative journey of self-discovery that shifts your mindset from "e;Why Me?"e; to "e;Why Not Me?"e; How To Badass Yourself: A Journey From Being Paralyzed To A Hole-In-One Using Unwavering Positivity is the story about the author's recovery from being paralyzed after an elective surgery in 2012, and her subsequent battle with peripheral neuropathy. The author embarks on the road less traveled, overcoming life's twists and turns, which were once suffocating with darkness, loneliness, and heavy pressure. Initially, she wondered, "e;Why Me?"e; However, through her journey, she has become resilient and has been guided to the right hands, the right person, and the right opportunity at the right time in her life. This self-discovery has become a mastery that highlights her innate gift, making her life feel like it has just begun. As she evolves into the person she is meant to be, she would never want to be anyone different, and her wonder has turned into "e;Why Not Me?"e;In this book, you will learn how to: Be brave in facing your emotions Accept what you cannot change Forgive yourself Learn to let go Stick to your peace of mind Find strength in solitudeAs American evangelical Christian pastor and author Charles R. Swindoll once said, "e;Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it."e;These words are a guiding principle in the author's life, and are reflected throughout her story. Her unwavering positivity has become a testament to her resilience, and her story will inspire you.

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Chapter II Magical Belief System

“The only way to do great work is to love what you do.

If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.”

Steve Jobs, co-founder of Apple Inc.

Loneliness Isn’t Always What It Seems

Did you love playing in the sun growing up? I did! Growing up with limited toys, I always enjoyed playing outside by myself and my pet as if I were cooking in my kitchen like my grandmother.

Playing outside in the sun with my pet, pretending to be cooking using mud, in the sun felt like having a break after completing my study and house chores. I became incredibly good at the house chores, so I got faster completing them. The faster I could do them, the quicker I could hone-in learning English grammar. Not to mention, I earned allowance for doing the house chores so that I could keep attending the English course.

Being alone early in my life meant I could be playing house outside or doing homework all by myself. I might get accustomed to the fact that I was always happy either being by myself, or I might not mind having a friend or two to play with. When I felt lonely, I found things to do; therefore, my loneliness wasn’t always what it seemed.

Whispers Of Self-Affirmation

Other than singing, I also believed that self-talk could be magical, even when no one else noticed my victorious moments. The self-talk worked well for me, sharing my own excitement. Another whisper of self-affirmation for me was self-belief. It was essential for me to believe in myself, even when I thought that no one else did.

Growing up by myself, I thought I was the only child that had to do things by myself, like the study and the chores. That also included when I celebrated exciting, happy moments by myself and in my own special way. My self-talk, “Good job!” or “There you go!” were my favorite expressions. Whether I was deep into my English books, pretending to cook in the sun, or silently commending herself, the self-talk and self-belief became my anchors, my belief system.

The belief system became my biggest cheerleader, my own reflection in the mirror. The belief system that sometimes made me wonder how far this could take me. Would this magical belief system shape my journey to be magical with discoveries of excitement along my path ahead?

Only time would tell.

Can you think back to a moment when you were able to hit a high note while singing in the shower? Or, when you were able to crack a puzzle that had been stumping you? Could you feel that rush of pride? That’s when I whispered self-affirmation to myself.

Believe Against All Odds

Have you ever encountered someone who truly believed they could fly? As a child, I often imagined soaring through blue skies with cardboard wings after finishing my homework and chores. This simple act of imagination freed my mind and sparked my creativity. My grandmother imparted a crucial lesson during those formative years - to always believe in good intentions, no matter how impossible things might seem.

The story of my eldest uncle, Uncle Minjee, serves as a powerful example of perseverance. Despite facing numerous challenges, he never gave up on his dream of studying Dutch. Even after completing his studies and encountering hardships, he remained focused on seizing every opportunity. Eventually, his determination led him to successfully establish a small business. My grandmother shared his journey not as a cautionary tale, but as a lesson in the power of belief.

My grandmother’s wisdom extended beyond individual stories. She often reminded me that when one door closes, we shouldn’t be discouraged. Instead, we should maintain faith in good intentions, as another door might be wide open for us. Her words still echo in my mind: “If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?” This simple yet profound question encouraged me to believe against all odds.

These childhood lessons about imagination, perseverance, and belief in good intentions have shaped my outlook on life. They remind me that even in the face of adversity, maintaining a positive mindset and believing in the best of any situation can lead to unexpected opportunities and personal growth.

The Backbone Of Success: The Work

When I became a teenager, my uncle and his family, who also had seven children, moved in to take care of my aging grandparents. My grandparents’ big house became livelier since then. Not only that, their move benefited me; the many chores that I did earlier were also shared with other children of my uncle. My chores got lighter, which meant I had more time for learning English and being more active in teaching Sunday School. It was a win for me.

I was no longer a lonely teenager and started enjoying having many discussions about new ideas with my cousin, Yudi Arto, who is one year younger than I am. He enjoyed reading management books, and growing up together with him, I had an opportunity to learn about management topics as well. When I got stuck trying to understand his reasoning, I enjoyed getting my uncle to get involved in the discussions during family dinner time. It helped both of us to learn deeper understanding together.

My uncle had become a strong influence, especially during my teenage years. He did not only welcome my concerns about college tuition, but also provided me with guidance that I learned about the whole complex process, from getting raw materials, making the snacks, and pricing them. My grandmother let me keep the profits towards my college account.

The lesson learned from this entrepreneurship mindset was precious and remained a strong experience in entrepreneurship in my early life. I learned that with good intentions, effort, and a bit of patience, I can always find a solution to any problems in front of me. It was how I felt about my life journey. Every challenge, every early morning, every penny saved – it was all a block in my tower of success, as my uncle repeatedly reminded me that success wasn’t just about luck. Importantly, it was about hard work and dedication as the backbone of success.

The Early Bird Catches The Worms

Do you remember the tales your parents or grandparents told you about waking up early? Stories where the early bird always seemed to get the best of everything? This timeless lesson has lingered in my mind since childhood, shaping my perspective on life. There’s something undeniably special about being the first to rise, the first to seize the day, and the first to embrace opportunities as they unfold.

My grandmother often said, “Wake up early, and you’re ahead of everyone.” I can still picture her warm smile as she shared this wisdom. Imagine being the first in line at a fun fair, where the thrill of the rides awaits you before the crowds arrive. That exhilarating feeling of being ahead of the game became my advantage in life. Similarly, think of a pie lover eagerly anticipating the first slice of a freshly baked pie, still warm from the oven. There’s a unique joy in being the one to savor that first taste, a reward for those who rise early and embrace the moment.

This philosophy extended beyond mere mornings; the “early bird catches the worms” mindset equipped me to tackle significant challenges head-on. It propelled me through my academic journey, allowing me to complete 120 credit hours in just three years of college. Each early morning became a steppingstone, a chance to get ahead, to absorb knowledge, and to prepare for the future. The discipline of waking up early transformed not just my days, but my entire approach to life, instilling a sense of purpose and determination that continues to guide me.

Planning And Saving: Two Sides Of The Same Coin

Remember when you saved up your pocket money to buy a special treat? That simple act of saving and spending was more than just a financial transaction; it was a profound lesson in understanding value. As children, we often focus on the immediate gratification of spending, but the true importance lies in grasping the concept of value at the moment of decision.

That concept was being planted in my mind by my grandparents, who understood the importance of teaching financial wisdom from an early age. Their guidance went beyond mere numbers; it was about instilling a sense of appreciation for the choices we make. One particular memory stands out vividly in my mind: the day I faced a choice between two ice cream options.

The dilemma was classic yet complex for a young mind. On one hand, there was a smaller scoop of my absolute favorite flavor, promising intense satisfaction with every bite. On the other, a larger serving of a less exciting flavor offered quantity over quality.

My grandparents used this moment to stress the importance of understanding what’s truly valuable in any given situation. They encouraged me to consider the context of my choice. Was this ice cream meant to serve as a meal, satisfying hunger with its larger portion? Or was it purely an indulgence, where the quality of experience mattered more than quantity? These questions taught me to look beyond the surface and consider the deeper implications of my choices.

This lesson extended far beyond ice cream. It became a foundation for understanding that value is not always about getting the most or the biggest, but about what best serves our needs and brings us joy in the moment. Sometimes, the smaller, more flavorful scoop is worth far more than a larger, less satisfying option. Other times, practicality might win out over preference.

As I grew older, I...

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 30.9.2025
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Literatur ► Romane / Erzählungen
• ISBN-10: 1-77277-687-4 / 1772776874
• ISBN-13: 978-1-77277-687-4 / 9781772776874