God in the Gutter (eBook)

A memoir of hope from the darkness of child sexual abuse and self-abuse.

Deborah Silva (Autor)

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2020 | 1. Auflage
166 Seiten
Bookbaby (Verlag)
978-1-0983-4023-0 (ISBN)

Infos

Victims of child sexual abuse feel the muck of the gutter, are smothered by darkness, and often see no way out of a perceived life sentence of brokenness. They may struggle to find joy or freedom in healthy relationships or wither inside, thinking no one could possibly love them. Others throw themselves into promiscuity, hoping to capture moments of physical love as evidence they are worthy of love. God in the Gutter is just such a story: a memoir of abuse and brokenness ... and hope. Repeatedly sexually abused, Deborah grows up wrapped in tentacles of guilt and shame. But she's smart and beautiful and strikes out to be somebody worthy of love. Grasping at elusive straws, she succeeds as prom queen, fashion model, Playboy centerfold model, and an invited guest at Hugh Hefner's housewarming party. She dates wealthy men, including movie stars and a revolving door of one-night stands with the 'beautiful people.' But despite having everything many girls only dream of, Deborah finds herself on the precipice of suicide when God reveals Himself to her in a miraculous incident. She learns about love and hope and life after brokenness ... the love and hope and life available to all whose lives have been shattered by sexual abuse. God is there to lift you out of the gutter.

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Victims of child sexual abuse feel the muck of the gutter, are smothered by darkness, and often see no way out of a perceived life sentence of brokenness. They may struggle to find joy or freedom in healthy relationships or wither inside, thinking no one could possibly love them. Others throw themselves into promiscuity, hoping to capture moments of physical love as evidence they are worthy of love. God in the Gutter is just such a story: a memoir of abuse and brokenness ... and hope. Repeatedly sexually abused, Deborah grows up wrapped in tentacles of guilt and shame. But she's smart and beautiful and strikes out to be somebody worthy of love. Grasping at elusive straws, she succeeds as prom queen, fashion model, Playboy centerfold model, and an invited guest at Hugh Hefner's housewarming party. She dates wealthy men, including movie stars and a revolving door of one-night stands with the "e;beautiful people."e; But despite having everything many girls only dream of, Deborah finds herself on the precipice of suicide when God reveals Himself to her in a miraculous incident. She learns about love and hope and life after brokenness the love and hope and life available to all whose lives have been shattered by sexual abuse. God is there to lift you out of the gutter.

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1 - All That Glitters

Mojave Desert, 1969

Our ankle-length gowns appropriately shimmered, our tiaras sparkled, and our underarms threatened rebellion against that day’s anti-perspirant application. All around us, the mid-morning desert spread gold from east to west and north to south. Sunlight danced around unmoving tumbleweed, stock-still in the absence of even a whispered breeze. The two-lane asphalt ribbon, a melting river in the approaching heat, glimmered empty to the distant horizon in both directions. The left rear tire of my faded metallic-gold Corvair melted flat like candle wax into the abyss of State Route 58 somewhere outside of the town of Boron.

I only know it was outside of Boron because I had just picked up Miss Boron, the reigning beauty queen of that relatively unknown desert burg. We were on our way to smile and wave from the floats in yet another small-town summer parade. The satiny sash draped over my own shoulder read “Miss California City.” We both stood, two princesses, a mirage in the middle of a thirsty desert, our high heels digging into the dry grit of sand at the highway’s edge, gazing at the flat tire. Our soon-to-be-pasted smiles struggled to find outlet in our current dilemma: stranded in the midst of this vast Mojave wasteland.

In the distance, a disturbance on the glistening horizon emerged. We both saw it at the same time, both hope and apprehension reflecting in each other’s gazes. My hand wrapped around the tire iron … just in case … as the approaching unknown and non-descript automobile rolled to a stop behind mine. Nearly half-a-dozen soldiers in short-sleeved tan uniforms, with silly grins plastered all over their faces, spilled from the vehicle like erupting volcanic lava.

“Is there a problem ladies?”

                

My less-than-meteoric rise to almost famous, and the journey to that day’s parade, began a few weeks earlier, just after my senior year and graduation from Mojave High School, smack dab in the middle of the very desolate Mojave Desert. The only glitch in my step had been failing my first attempt at my driver’s test to obtain that coveted California driver’s license. I scored nearly perfect the second time around and was thus able to drive my graduation-present Corvair, complete with pending payments, (and repaired flat tire), to the Antelope Valley Fair parade in the not-so-booming metropolis of Lancaster, California.

I had entered the local California City beauty pageant for the fun and glamour, complete with an archrival as the anticipated winner. Besides the intimidating interviews, part of the competition included a fashion show. I had loved runway modeling with the Teen Fashion Board during my junior year of high school in San Jose, so for the California City contest, I strode the pageant’s fashion runway with the elegance of an experienced model.

For the final event of the pageant, the five finalists donned evening gowns. My silky white gown shimmered, along with my nerves, while my long brown hair tumbled over my shoulders. Bright sunlight bathed the wooden deck of the California City recreation center while the audience watched from the troop-like formation of the white deck chairs. The sky glittered brilliant blue, sparkling off the lake surrounding the center. Each girl delivered a few-minute speech about herself and answered that dreaded unknown question. I don’t recall my dreaded question, but my speech was well-practiced. Though I didn’t expect the crown, I knew I had done well. I wanted to win more than I was willing to admit.

Then it was done. Damp with perspiration and nervously congratulating one another, the contestants waited behind thick glass walls. Giddy smiles hid the hope that each had outperformed her competitors. The judges completed deliberations. The doors opened. The emcee’s voice jarred each girl’s heart to a stop.

“And … the fourth runner-up is …” The disappointed princess, with a contrived smile, stepped out to the deck while each of the rest of us breathed a momentary sigh of relief.

He announced the third runner-up … and the second runner-up. Tensions mounted. My archrival and I, still behind the glass walls, avoided each other’s eyes. The emcee babbled on about inconsequential matters, stalling. We held our breath.

“And the first runner-up is …” He announced the other girl’s name.

My mother squealed from the audience. “She did it!”

I basked in the acclaim as they pinned the tiara to my hair, draped the sash over my shoulder, and placed the roses in my arms. I savored the moment. An insatiable need inside me could no longer settle for second-best. I had become an approval junkie.

The Miss California City title opened many doors for me. The city manager offered me a public relations job which I gladly accepted, eager to push aside and forget my existing job as a hotel maid. That summer of 1969 filled with fairs, parades, and carnival rides with Senators. I rode the rock-o-plane with Senator Barry Goldwater Jr. There were bigger pageants with famous entertainers and choreographed performances throughout Southern California. My opportunities for dating increased exponentially. I devoured the attention. My long-time boyfriend Ted was quickly fading into the past as a helicopter door-gunner half a world away in the Viet Nam War.

So many possibilities loomed on my horizon. I had graduated in the top-ten of my class. I had been accepted to a prominent fashion school in Los Angeles. As Miss California City, my public relations job transferred to the Hollywood corporate offices for Great Western Cities, the financial investment company responsible for the very existence of California City. The Director of Marketing, a senior-level middle-aged boys-club buddy, defined my job description in Hollywood as, “Just look pretty.” I knew my dreams of a whirlwind career in the exciting world of fashion were very much attainable. Fame and fortune awaited me … the darkness of my childhood would be forever buried.

                

A few short months later, in the middle of a fitful sleep, a spasm jerked my body awake. For a brief moment my head rose off the pillow, a whimper pushed past my throat. It took me a couple of minutes to realize where I was. Gradually my eyes adjusted, and I recognized the shadowy outlines of my own bedroom in North Hollywood. A dim glow from a nearby streetlight filtered through the Venetian blinds, just enough for me to make out some of the forms in my room. The other empty bed reminded me that my roommate, Kathy, was away for the weekend. I heaved a great sigh, laid back on my pillow and gazed blankly towards the ceiling.

I had shared dinner earlier that evening with Dennis, the lead singer from the band at the fraternity party Kathy and I attended the previous week. That previous week, I had been, well … intoxicated … just like everyone else at the party. Wanton behavior emerged when I drank, and Dennis’ raw, sensual performance triggered desire in me. Dennis expected that wanton behavior tonight, but I wasn’t drinking with dinner. Without the dull edge of alcohol, I tired of him by the time we ordered dessert. I drove home in my own car, dragged myself up the stairs to my second-floor apartment and collapsed, still dressed, in a heap on my bed.

Vacant thoughts lulled my mind. I hated the person I had become.

Ted, why did you have to leave? I cursed the government that stole him from me; the government that sent him to that execrable Viet Nam war.

For two years, Ted had been the focal point in my life. When he was there, things made sense. I had only been in North Hollywood a few months and had already forgotten the names of most of the men I partied with. Despite my status as Miss California City, I needed constant approval, someone to value me. I had the looks and body to attract any man I wanted. It was easy to find affirmation in a man’s arms, but physical lust offers only temporary relief, a counterfeit relief for desired love.

Kathy worked as a hostess at a popular restaurant. She constantly met guys who had a friend who wanted to go out with her friend. I was happy to oblige. There were weekends in Palm Springs, dinners in Santa Barbara, and endless parties at the singles’ apartment complexes. Kathy and I left our restrictive dorms at the fashion school and rented our own apartment. Barely eighteen, we figured we knew all we needed to know to make our own decisions and choose our own behavior.

Lessons came fast and I succumbed with ignorant fervor. When I was modeling, photographers were always interested in more than just taking my pictures. I dated struggling actors who were usually rude and self-centered and could not be trusted. Successful actors were arrogant, “Wannabees” revolting. Everyone I met clung to some fringe of show business. For anything anyone desired, there were willing participants, willing guides, and eager masters. In Hollywood, it wasn’t hard to touch the seedy side of life. It reached to consume any who stepped in its path. I knew I was sinking into depravity but didn’t know what to do about it. It nearly cost me my life.

Kathy set me up with Walt, a motorcycle racer,...

Produkt-Details

• Erscheint lt. Verlag: 8.10.2020
• Sprache: englisch
• Themenwelt: Literatur ► Biografien / Erfahrungsberichte
• ISBN-10: 1-0983-4023-X / 109834023X
• ISBN-13: 978-1-0983-4023-0 / 9781098340230